Top 11 Questions People Are Too Shy To Ask Extroverts (But Are Dying To Know)
It's good to know both sides of the story.
By Judith Yeoh
11. "Do you talk to yourself when you're alone?"
You mean you don't talk to yourself when you're alone? Extroverts are drained by too much time alone. They need human interaction to recharge. When they're alone, they like being alone. Just not for too long. Else they might start talking to themselves.
10. "Is your dad or mum the extroverted one?"
An extrovert doesn't have to have extroverted parents. They can be raised by introverted parents or even ambiverts, exhibiting the characteristics of both personality types.
9. "Were you like this in school too?"
Extroverts learn best when they’re talking and interacting. They’re the kids who are often poking their neighbors, whispering to other kids, or calling out the answer. Introverts learn by watching and reflecting.
8. "Do you ever get tired listening to your own voice?"
Maybe, if it's a one-way conversation. An extrovert will usually try to keep the conversation going.
7. "What do you mean you can't be alone?"
An extroverted person is likely to enjoy time spent with people and find less reward in time spent alone. They tend to be energised when around other people, while introverts are energised when being alone.
6. "Shouldn't you be avoiding sweets and chocolates?"
Rule #1: Hyperactivity should not be confused with extroversion!
5. "How often do you go clubbing?"
In the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience published in June 2013, the study found that extroverts are more likely to associate the rush of the feel-good brain chemical dopamine with the environment they are in at the time, and research has already found that extroverts opt for instant gratification and focus more on the faces of others than introverts. Invite them to a party or a club and they'll know just what to do and enjoy themselves best they can. Invite them every Saturday of the month, and they might tell you unashamedly that they'd rather be somewhere else.
4. "Do quiet people annoy you?"
Extroverts often think best when they are talking and are energised when people are there to listen. Their motivation to continue their conversation peaks when people lend attention toward them. If your friend is an extrovert, acknowledge them with gestures and body language.
3. "You're so... intense."
That wasn't a question and it isn't such a bad thing to be intense.
2. "Why must you always be the center of attention? Why can't you just... sleep?"
Extroverts seem accessible and often are noticed because of their ease with others and obvious pleasure in conversing and interacting with others. They are more likely to enjoy being in the public eye, and gravitate toward activities that promote interaction or that cater to larger groups of people.
1. "How can I be more 'open' like you?"
Extroverts are open and do not hesitate to share their thoughts with others. It is easier to get to know an extrovert as they do not hesitate to lay bare their feelings and thoughts. How to be open? Don't rehearse your words internally or worry about whether it's thoughtful, correct, helpful or pertinent. Just say it!
