Chinese Valentine's Day Is Coming Up, And No, It's Not 14 February

The Chinese actually celebrate Valentine's Day three times a year!

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Every year on 14 February, it has become a tradition for those who are happily attached to shower their significant other with extra love and appreciation on Valentine's Day

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While the romantic holiday is celebrated worldwide, did you know that the Chinese people have their own variation of Valentine's Day as well? Not only that, there are TWO different festivals dedicated to love and romance!

You're probably familiar with the first one. Chap Goh Mei - meaning the 15th night of Chinese New Year in the Hokkien dialect - is often considered the Chinese equivalent of Valentine's Day in Malaysia, Hong Kong, and Taiwan.

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Aside from marking the final day of Chinese New Year celebrations, Chap Goh Mei is also known as Lantern Festival or Yuan Xiao Jie (Chinese: 元宵节), where houses and streets are decorated with red lanterns, some of which have riddles on them for people to solve.

Chap Goh Mei is an evening reserved for potential courtship and finding love. In fact, one of the festival's long-standing traditions involves unmarried ladies throwing mandarin oranges into the sea in hopes of finding a good husband.

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Back in the olden days, unmarried young ladies were typically not allowed to go out at night except for Chap Goh Mei. On that evening, they would dress in their finest and stroll down the streets accompanied by a chaperone. Of course, the young men would take the opportunity to catch a glimpse of the lovely maidens and maybe get to know them better.

It's also on this night that the ladies would throw mandarin oranges engraved with their names and contact details (e.g. phone number or e-mail address) into a lake, river, or sea. Young men looking for wives would hop on boats and try to scoop up prized fruits thrown by the girl(s) they admire. This tradition is believed to have started by the Hokkiens in southern China during the 19th century and became increasingly popular in Penang and Klang Valley.

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In recent times, the tradition is not only limited to unmarried singles. People of all ages also throw in symbolic items like apples, stones, and bananas with good wishes written on them.

Besides Chap Goh Mei, the Chinese also consider Qixi Festival - celebrated on the seventh day of the seventh month in the Chinese calendar - the Chinese equivalent of Valentine's Day

Ornaments for Qixi Festival on display in China.

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Qixi Festival (Chinese: 七夕節), also known as the Double Seventh Festival, has been celebrated in the past 2,000+ years since the Han Dynasty (206 BC – 220 AD) in honour of the annual meeting of the cowherd and weaver girl in Chinese mythology. The festival also inspired the Tanabata (Star Festival) in Japan and Chilseok in Korea.

While it is widely accepted to be a day dedicated to lovers, the festival's connection to the Western Valentine's Day is relatively new and is still debated by experts of Chinese literature and experts.

Qixi Festival originated from the well-known romantic legend Niulang Zhinü (Chinese: 牛郎织女), referring to the cowherd and weaver maid respectively. There are several variations of the story, but the general tale goes like this:

Zhinü, the seventh daughter of a heavenly goddess who is responsible for weaving colourful clouds (hence the name "weaver girl"), decided to pay a visit to earth to ease her boredom. While on earth, she fell in love with the mortal Niulang (cowherd), whom she married without the knowledge of the goddess and both were soon blessed with two children.

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Domestic life seemed peachy for the small family... until the Queen Mother of the West (or in some versions, the Jade Emperor) found out that Zhinü had married a mere mortal. Furious, the Queen Mother ordered the weaver girl to return to heaven and resume her neglected responsibilities.

Meanwhile, in the human realm, Niulang was devastated that his wife had disappeared. Suddenly, his ox (a demoted cattle god) began to talk, telling him to kill it and put on its hide so he can go up to heaven to find his wife. Niulang reluctantly did so, and was soon on his way to heaven with his two children in tow.

Niulang's journey to heaven angered the Queen Mother even more. Using her hairpin, she scratched a wide river in the sky to separate the husband and wife forever, thus forming the Milky Way between the stars Altair (Niulang) and Vega (Zhinü).

But all hope is not lost. Moved by their love and devotion for each other, all the magpies in the world flew up to heaven to form a bridge over the river, uniting Zhinü with her husband and children. It's a bittersweet ending to their story though, as the bridge only materialises once every year, on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month.

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Differing variations of the story are also popular in other parts of Asia, such as Thailand, Cambodia, Sri Lanka, Vietnam, Korea, and Japan.

Unlike Chap Goh Mei, the Qixi Festival is lesser known in Malaysia as it is primarily celebrated in China. Even so, its rituals and traditions are rarely observed today.

Women weave decorations onto grassmat products in preparation for Qixi Festival.

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The traditions of Qixi Festival are actually observed by the unmarried and married alike, some of which include:

- Young women showing off their skills, particularly in threading a needle under a moonlight and carving exotic flowers, animals, and unusual birds, usually on lemon skin.
- Unmarried ladies also pray to Zhinü for wisdom, a good husband, and a happy life.
- Newlyweds worship the celestial couple for the last time and bid farewell as a symbol for a happy marriage.
- Stargazing under the night sky to look at the Altair and Vega stars.

However, modern Chinese no longer observe these traditional customs, opting to gift their significant others with flowers or gifts instead. It's also a very popular day for attached couples to tie the knot.

So, if you include 14 February, the Chinese actually celebrate Valentine's Day three times a year! Who said Chinese people are not romantic? ;)

Chinese New Year is nearing its end, but it's not too late to read up on the rich history behind the festive season's iconic markers:

When Chinese immigrants arrived in Malaysia some hundred year ago, they brought with them a heritage of diverse cultures:

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