11 Signs You're The Kind Who Falls For "Bad Guys"
It's a question human race has long been asking - Why do good women fall for bad men?
By Melody Oei — 26 Sep 2013, 03:53 PM — Updated almost 11 years ago
1. You're the giver in the relationship and are a lot more invested in it
1. When you don't get the love and attention you want, it may seem natural to give more
Image via asianetindia.comIf there isn't a foundation of love, respect and commitment with the person you're dating, giving more and doing nice things will not cause them to love you more, it'll only result in you becoming increasingly attached.
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2. You have unresolved issues you haven't dealt with
Women who fall for “bad men” often have unresolved issues that make them attracted to these individuals as a way to deal with these issues.
thestar.com.my3. You're used to distant or emotionally detached men
Women from dysfunctional families, whose father had affairs with other women, or women with father issues, who did not get much attention from their father, may also fall into the cycle of dating “bad men”.
Image via divinecaroline.comWomen from dysfunctional families, whose father had affairs with other women, or women with father issues, who did not get much attention from their father, may also fall into the cycle of dating “bad men”.
thestar.com.my“It is an accustomed and familiar relationship, and when you’re familiar with something, it’s comfortable, and you will become unconsciously attracted to the same sort of man your mother was."
thestar.com.my4. You don't think you're worthwhile to be with a good guy
“This is when women don’t have a healthy image of themselves. They often do not think that they’re worthwhile to be with a 'good guy', so they settle for the 'bad man.'"
5. You find it hard to walk away, rationalising your choice to stay by focusing on positive traits your partner might possess
5. You find it hard to walk away, rationalising your choice to stay by focusing on positive traits your partner might possess
Image via amazonaws.comBoth men and women who have been verbally or physically abused often refuse to leave those relationships similarly to how drugs addicts cannot leave their relationship with drugs.
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6. You feel this powerful aura when associating yourself with a partner who isn't afraid of getting into trouble
6. You feel this powerful aura when associating yourself with one who is not afraid of getting into trouble
Image via blogspot.com“Men who do what they like & rebel and who's not afraid to get into trouble, may seem attractive because they have that seemingly powerful aura. By associating herself with that person, it makes her feel powerful by association."
thestar.com.my7. Dating "good guys" leaves you feeling unsatisfied and bored
She also adds that women who are attracted to “bad men” find “good guys” boring and non-attractive. If these women ever date a “good guy” they will end up feeling unsatisfied and bored.
thestar.com.my8. You have tried to sabotage your relationship with a "nice guy" by "testing" him
8. You have tried to sabotage your relationship with a "nice guy" by "testing" him
Image via twodaymag.com“She will keep trying to sabotage the relationship to “test” him because she doesn't believe the “good guy” wants her. She may even cheat on this “good guy”, because they feel like the “good guy” will leave her anyway."
9. You believe you're the one that can "fix" a man
Maybe you have a savior complex. Maybe you’re co-dependent and need someone to “fix.” Or maybe you’re just optimistic.
While it’s always possible for someone to change into someone nicer or healthier, it’s not very probable, especially if your boyfriend isn’t even the one longing for change.
10. You can't identify your criteria for the right man
What are his personality traits? Can you describe his values and beliefs? What are your must-haves in order to consider someone for dating or marriage? Knowing your criteria for the right man for you begins with knowing yourself.
yourtango.com11. You seem to be caught in a cycle where guys always end up hurting you
A lot of women get caught up in a cycle where they fall for "bad men," and they can remain in this cycle for the rest of their lives.
thestar.com.my“Once you’re aware that you have predisposition to go out with “bad men”. Ask yourself if you’re ready to break this cycle and visit unresolved childhood issues."
thestar.com.myDo nice guys really finish last?
"Women don't really want the nice guy. They always say they want a nice guy, but what they really want is a great guy. A guy with principles. A guy who really understands and respects himself."
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