Why 20-Somethings Don't Know What They're Doing

Here are 10 reasons why no one knows what they're doing in their 20s and remedies to it!

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1. You didn't take advantage of your college years

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You chose a major because you were good at it in high school and you found it ”interesting”. You thought joining clubs would take up too much time, so you said “maybe next semester”, yet you never did.

Remedy: Stop chasing money and start chasing happiness

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Find a way to turn your passion into a career. In this day and age we need to stop putting our passions aside and start living them.

2. You're not enjoying the present moment

You expect that some event in the future will make you happy. You're missing the opportunities around you in the present because you live for the future.

Remedy: Don't live to be happy, be happy while living

Don’t make happiness as the end product of your achievements/goals – get a perfect job/car/house/spouse. Derive happiness from whatever you are doing at present.

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3. You aren't in control of your life, your parent or someone else is

Sometimes the harder route is better for us, and we as adult individuals can see that, but our parents can’t see our lives in the same light.

Remedy: While you should respect the wishes and viewpoints of your parents, you don't have to mindlessly trudge down the path they lay out for you

If you truly want to do something, you need to take control of your own life and do it. At the end of the day, it’s your life to live.
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4. Your environment is holding you back

“You are the average of the five people you associate with most, so do not underestimate the effects of your pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized friends. If someone isn’t making you stronger, they’re making you weaker.” ― Timothy Ferriss

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Excessive indulgence (whether it’s drinking, partying, drug use, sex, junk eating, or whatever) can prevent you from focusing on self-discovery and improvement, and it can even become your worst enemy.

Remedy: Surround yourself with people who have qualities you admire, who are smarter and more driven than you

"You cannot surround yourself with negative people and expect to live a positive life."

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If you want to get somewhere, then hang out with the people who are already there or who also want to get there. Change your environment, change your friends, and you change everything.

5. You're climbing a ladder leaned up against the wrong wall

We want to be happy now, and we won’t sacrifice any part of that in return for future gains. So, we get stuck in the endless cycle of day to day motions, because we’re content with that cycle.

Most young people suffer from being totally short-sighted. They think they’ll have plenty of time to get what they want, so they don’t take the appropriate steps now, and suddenly life passes them by.

Remedy: Why waste time doing something you don't even care about? Start taking steps to make what you really want to do happen

You Only Live Once? Exactly. You only live once, so why waste your time doing something you don’t even care about?

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6. You've stopped learning - learning is an ongoing process, not something you actively choose to do

Knowledge can’t be stolen or broken like material things. That’s why millionaires are broke one year and richer the next year. It’s not the money that got them rich it was the knowledge.

Remedy: Read books, anything you want to learn is at your fingertips so read and stick to people who do what you want to do

Read books. Think about it this way; someone spent their entire life learning some painful lesson and is offering these golden nuggets to you for less than $10. Why wouldn’t you take that knowledge so you can learn from others.

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When you’re passionate about it all, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you learn, how hungrily you consume new knowledge. Connect with peers, too; you can learn just as readily from others like you.

7. You assume that you'll become more successful as you get older

The modern world is full of overeducated twenty-somethings with no real career prospects, baffled at how things have turned out, still living off of the Malaysian Bank of Mom and Dad.

Remedy: Stop doing the same thing everyday, time is your most valuable resource

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No one knows what they’re doing in their 20s because very few understand that time is the most precious asset in life, and you will never get it back. Not even billionaires can buy more time. They die, just like you and I will.

8. You're afraid of the world beyond academia

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Too many people go to grad school as a means of hiding out, because they’re afraid of the world beyond academia. It’s all they know. These people don’t usually fare well once grad school is over.

Remedy: Know your path and make a logical, rational decision about whether or not further studies is a smart stepping stone on your path

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You should go to grad school if you want to pursue a career that requires it. Don’t go just for the hell of it, or to put off entering the job market, or to improve your resume by adding an additional line to it.

9. You're not pushing yourself - success is a product of hard work, not talent

No one knows what they’re doing in their 20s because very few realize that you just have to do the work. Do it over and over again. Fail over and over again, cry over and over again, get back up and learn from those experiences.

Remedy: If you want to see change, you're going to have to take risk, put in the time and work your a** off

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Don’t sit back in a comfortable job that will give you a 5% annual raise. You are not learning. You are not pushing yourself. You are not growing. You’re wasting your time and living a life of complacency.

10. You're a stimulus junkie, moving from one stimulating quick fix at a time to another

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You’re on the cutting edge of every trend. You’re in the know on the latest fashions, and you’ve got a ferocious sense of style. You’re a shopaholic. Sound like you? If so, you might be a stimulus junkie.

Remedy: Stop wasting time filling your life with the things that billion dollar marketing companies tell you that you need, build your days on getting to where you want to be

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The material things aren't bad, but when they become all-consuming they keep you from developing a fulfilling life of action. They turn you into purely a consumer instead of a producer.

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