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Video Of Drunk Elderly Man Demanding Sex From A Young Man On The MRT Goes Viral

"Can I kiss you? I want to kiss you now."

Cover image via Joe DeMarini

A man was subjected to sexual assault when he was commuting on the MRT (Mass Rapid Transit) in Singapore recently

Image via Joe DeMarini

In a somewhat bizarre video that has gone viral, an elderly man, believed to be a Singaporean, was seen demanding for sex from another male passenger on the train.

The video was first uploaded by Facebook Joe DeMarini yesterday, 20 April, who shared about his harrowing experience.

"Just a heads up, this guy physically assaulted me on the MRT, so if you ever see him, be on your guard. I was with a friend and he approached me — drunk — and said he was gay, and that he wanted to f##k me. He said, 'I know you're gay, so let's f##k'," DeMarini wrote on the post.

In the video, the elderly man kept propositioning for sex and accused DeMarini of being a gay

"You're a f##cking gay. I’m a gay also," he exclaimed in public.

In response, DeMarini said that he's not a gay. However, the man continued to harass DeMarini and claimed that DeMarini had made a "signal" to him.

DeMarini, who hails from Pennsylvania, USA, also stressed this in his post on Facebook.

"I'm not gay (not that it should matter). However, I don't exactly fit the "masculine" mould of society, so oftentimes I am mistaken as queer--on several occasions around the world, for example, I've caught flak for carrying a 'man purse'," he explained.

However, it didn't matter as the man kept provoking DeMarini.

"I want you to f##k me tonight," the man told DeMarini repeatedly.

The man was persistent in harassing DeMarini. Things escalated when he assaulted DeMarini in front of everyone else.

Image via Joe DeMarini

Below is the transcript of what transpired before the man slapped DeMarini on the side of his head:

Elderly man: Can I kiss you? I want to kiss you now.

DeMarini's friend: Are you mentally even stable?

DeMarini: No, if you kiss me, I’ll punch your f##cking face off.

Elderly man: You see, see, he use vulgar word.

DeMarini's friend (to DeMarini): Shhh.

DeMarini: Sorry, I know, I know.

Elderly man: Use one more vulgar, I’m going to slap you.


After saying this, the man got upset and immediately slapped DeMarini before anyone could stop him.

In the midst of that encounter, two strangers intervened and stood up for DeMarini

Image via Joe DeMarini

One of the bystanders, believed to be a Caucasian woman, approached the man and tried to calm him down.

Although it appears that her efforts were futile, she did stop the man from making any further attacks on DeMarini.

Another bystander stepped in and came to the young man's aid just moments later. The bystander stood in between them while the elderly man kept going on and on and blamed DeMarini for "signalling' him.

According to DeMarini, he managed to get off the MRT safely with his friend eventually.

"When my friend and I got off at our stop, he got off as well, but we managed to evade him and leave the station without him following us."

"I wish I'd said thank you to the train people who took a stand and put themselves between me and this man, but I was too rattled to muster it (at least I could thank my friend, who had the good sense to make a video)," he wrote.

Needless to say, the whole incident was a traumatic experience for DeMarini

"I wish I'd sat in a different train car, and the whole situation could've been avoided. Was it the V-neck I was wearing? My ripped skinny jeans? I probably should have held my temper, but that's not my character."

"Could I have found a way to peacefully diffuse the whole situation? It's obviously not my fault but, somehow, a part of me is convinced it was," he said.

There are those who asked DeMarini why he did not fight back or call the police. Responding to this question, DeMarini said, "I say, 'I am a white immigrant in a country where I do not have citizenship and am a minority — law enforcement may not take my side, despite video and photo evidence'."

"A slap on the head is nothing, really, but I feel completely unsettled — Singapore has been a trial by fire since my first day, and this doesn't help. In all honesty, I'm a bit tipsy and have no idea what I'm feeling."

The video that was uploaded by DeMarini has received more than 800,000 views and 15,000 shares. Watch it here:

NOTE: The video recording contains explicit content that may not be suitable for all audience.

Hey Singapore friends: just a heads up, this guy physically assaulted me on the MRT, so if you ever see him, be on your guard. I was with a friend and he approached me--drunk--and said he was gay, and that he wanted to fuck me. He said, "I know you're gay, so let's fuck."

This went on for several minutes and I tried to politely diffuse the situation, but then he began to yell at my friend when she intervened; I wouldn't let this stand, and started to become angry myself. He threatened her, and some other people on the train intervened (several were filming). He touched me, and I told him not to, and I briefly lost my temper--after that he slapped me on the side of the head. He kept going on and on, and when a woman tried to take his picture, he attempted to kick her phone out of her hand. When my friend and I got off at our stop, he got off as well, but we managed to evade him and leave the station without him following us.

For those of you that don't know: I'm not gay (not that it should matter). However, I don't exactly fit the "masculine" mold of society, so oftentimes I am mistaken as queer--on several occasions around the world, for example, I've caught flak for carrying a "man purse." On a personal level, this is why I need feminism: so I can be confident in myself and not feel like I have to fulfill any gender role assigned to me. However, I do appreciate that women probably have to deal with this shit (or at least the threat of it) on a fairly regular basis.

For those asking "Why didn't you fight back or call the police?" I say, "I am a white immigrant in a country where I do not have citizenship and am a minority--law enforcement may not take my side, despite video and photo evidence." This is something I learned while living in South Korea, where no amount of assimilation will protect you when a Korean is arguing against you. In this situation, there's a chance I would've been accused of inciting violence, and been charged accordingly.

I feel pretty awful about this--it's after 2:30 in the morning and I can't sleep; I can't even bring myself to watch the video. Is that normal? In a sick sense, I feel lucky to have this recorded: it's proof! And others have recorded it as well! Some people would die for that kind of evidence!

Yet here I am, too embarrassed and too ashamed to watch it.

A slap on the head is nothing, really, but I feel completely unsettled--Singapore has been a trial by fire since my first day, and this doesn't help. In all honesty, I'm a bit tipsy and have no idea what I'm feeling.

I wish I'd said thank you to the train people who took a stand and put themselves between me and this man, but I was too rattled to muster it (at least I could thank my friend, who had the good sense to make a video). I wish I'd sat in a different train car, and the whole situation could've been avoided. Was it the V-neck I was wearing? My ripped skinny jeans? I probably should have held my temper, but that's not my character. Could I have found a way to peacefully diffuse the whole situation? It's obviously not my fault but, somehow, a part of me is convinced it was.

Anyway, I have work in the morning, so the only thing to do is press on (or at least try to get some sleep). I've accomplished more in a few years than I could've ever imagined, and I've met so many amazing and supportive people along the way--I can't really let the few bastards of the world stop me, can I?

Posted by Joe DeMarini on Wednesday, April 19, 2017

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