M'sian Couple Break Up After Girlfriend Catches Boyfriend Stealing Her Undergarments
They were together for four years.
By Yap Wan Xiang — 08 Aug 2023, 06:26 PM
A Malaysian couple broke up after the girlfriend realised her partner had been stealing her undergarments on multiple occasions
According to Harian Metro, Shira (alias), who is in her 30s, said her boyfriend, Zul (alias), is a kind person from an influential and respected family.
"I was in a relationship with Zul for four years, and he is someone who respects me and our boundaries.
"We were in a long-distance relationship, as Zul works in the north and I'm studying here (in Kuala Lumpur). Usually, I would hitch a ride with him to go back to my hometown whenever he visited his family here.
"I truly trusted Zul, because he respected me and had never tried to take advantage of me," she shared.
However, things took a turn after she discovered that her undergarments went missing each time she hitched a ride with her boyfriend
"At first, Zul denied stealing my undergarments. However, he conceded and admitted to having a peculiar hobby of keeping unwashed women's underwear since he was in high school," Shira related.
"At the time of the incident, I had just come out of the toilet of a gas station. I saw Zul rummaging through a bag of my dirty clothes. I always take dirty clothes home to wash.
"I saw Zul holding something before hastily hiding it in a pocket in his pants," she added.
She said her boyfriend did not realise she had caught him committing the act. She confirmed it later when she checked her bag and found that her undergarments had disappeared.
Two weeks after the incident, they travelled back to Shira's hometown again, and Zul was spotted stealing her undergarments again.
"I pretended to not know (about his past actions) before seeing Zul quietly unzipping my suitcase.
"I then shared (what I knew) with my family, who later told me to end our relationship," Shira recounted.
She ended things with Zul after confronting him.
In psychology, the habit of stealing people's undergarments is known as a sexual fetish or paraphilia
A senior lecturer from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM) Clinical Psychology and Behavioural Health Program, Associate Professor Dr Shazli Ezzat Ghazali, said the act of stealing undergarments is satisfying for the perpetrators, reported New Straits Times.
"Stealing a women's undergarment could also be a form of manifestation of power or dominance, as well as a symbolic relationship to the individual who possessed the stolen items.
"For the record, however, people with sexual fetish are not in the same spectrum as people who are mentally ill," explained Dr Shazli.
The professor said people with the fetish would often feel that they are 'closer' to the individuals whom they stole undergarments from in their 'fantasy'.
She advised people struggling with the habit to seek help from counsellors or psychiatrists.
To read more insights by experts on the topic, read the full article on New Straits Times.
