M'sian Family Allegedly Pin Daughter Down And Hit Her Simply Because She's Dating A Malay
The alleged victim, Dong Yi, claimed her parents believed that her partner had placed a "black magic" spell on her, which required beating to "wake" her up.
By Yap Wan Xiang — 03 Nov 2023, 02:44 PM
A 23-year-old woman has alleged that her parents subjected her to physical abuse due to her relationship with a Malay man
In an interview with SAYS, Dong Yi explained that the incident began some two months ago when she introduced Emiri, a 22-year-old budding musician, to her parents.
Initially, she introduced Emiri as her friend while she was living with her parents and her three siblings in Ipoh, Perak.
After her parents became aware of her romantic relationship with Emiri, she alleged that their attitudes became increasingly "racist".
"What makes you so dumb to think a Malay (man) is the right partner to have? They're lazy, useless, and they're not loyal," the parents allegedly said to her on multiple occasions at their Ipoh home.
The situation came to a head on 8 August when her parents allegedly pinned her down to the ground and assaulted her
Dong Yi was discussing her relationship with Emiri with her family that Tuesday night, and her parents became increasingly agitated as the conversation went on.
"They beat me up... They came up with an excuse that I was being possessed because the guy I am seeing is a Malay, [who] put black magic on me," she recounted in an Instagram video.
"My brother and my dad pinned me down to the ground, especially my dad who sat on top of me and wrestled me while my siblings yelled at me.
"When I was able to stand up, my dad slapped me a few times until my face was bloodied. My head hit the wall because he slapped [me] too hard.
"My mum was at the back, yelling, 'Ya! Slap her! Slap her until she's awake because this is not Dong Yi'," she alleged.
Dong Yi claimed that after the assault, her father ordered her to wash her face, which she believed was a way to "erase the evidence" of the physical abuse.
She alleged that her family also barred her from leaving the house, citing her father's desire to keep the incident discreet.
According to Dong Yi, she witnessed "casual racism" from her parents while growing up but could not have imagined that their bigotry would adversely affect her life
She said when her parents became aware of her relationship with Emiri, they imposed their racist beliefs onto her in an attempt to separate them.
Dong Yi's friends defending Emiri and her after her parents claimed that she was kidnapped by Emiri.
Image via @d0ng.y1 (Instagram)Dong Yi told SAYS she managed to escape from the house after the abuse
She sought refuge at a friend's house and contacted Emiri for assistance. Emiri promptly travelled from Kuala Lumpur to Ipoh, where he accompanied her to a hospital and assisted her in filing a police report.
Dong Yi stated that her ordeal didn't end there. Even after escaping from her family, they continued to harass her, Emiri, and their friends.
She claimed that Emiri's Instagram account attracted the attention of multiple suspicious accounts that began stalking him daily, raising concerns about their safety.
"Feeling unsafe, we decided to reach out to an inspector one week after the incident, but the inspector mysteriously disappeared, failing to respond to any calls or messages," she said.
In several social media posts, Dong Yi demanded her family to stop harassing her, Emiri, and their friends.
Image via @d0ng.y1 (Instagram)
Dong Yi speaking to the camera to express her disappointment at with her family.
Image via @d0ng.y1 (Instagram)On 13 October, Dong Yi discovered her family had created a Facebook page and Instagram profile, with one of them having the handle "Please Come Back Dong Yi"
These accounts allegedly spread false accusations about Emiri, revealing his workplace address, their full names, Dong Yi's whereabouts, excerpts from her personal diary, and fabricated information about her disappearance.
One such post sighted by SAYS stated, "We know there are some missing chapters now. Just remember to come home when you need daddy and mummy. Mummy says, 'Don't play for too long.'"
The caption insinuates that Dong Yi's relationship with Emiri is just a phase.
Another post read, "Daddy and mummy will not give up. We know that you want to explore by yourself now. Come home when you need us, Dong Yi. Forever my Dong Yi."
It is understood that Dong Yi's aunt allegedly left comments on the Instagram profile of Emiri's record label, making threats and vowing to send warning messages until her niece was found.
In response to these actions, the couple filed a police report on 13 and 15 October regarding the false accusations and the leaking of their private information.
Dong Yi and Emiri were informed that Ipoh police had summoned her family members for questioning, and that a warrant for their arrest would be issued.
In response to Dong Yi's social media posts about her alleged abuse, her family told SAYS that they have filed a report with the Malaysian Communications and Multimedia Commission (MCMC)
"There is no arrest warrant issued (against us).
"We've also reported to MCMC, as well as (lodged a) police report because (a local media outlet) has unethically (published) a police case in a fictional story format," the family said when contacted, adding that the case is currently being investigated.
When pressed for further comments regarding the abuse allegations, they declined to provide more details, stating, "This is a heart-wrenching moment for our family."
As for the couple, they are currently seeking to initiate legal actions against her parents, but lack the financial means to take the case to court
Dong Yi mentioned that Emiri is currently undergoing an internship, while she has recently finished hers.
While a lawyer has reached out to them and offered to represent them on a pro-bono basis, there are still filing and affirmation fees that cannot be avoided.
As such, they are seeking to raise funds to finance the cost. She added that any surplus from the donations raised will be channelled towards deserving non-governmental organisations (NGOs), such as the Women's Aid Organisation (WAO).
Below is a video of Dong Yi recounting her alleged abuse:
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
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