"I Want To Run Away" — Pregnant Woman Discovers Husband's Affair 4 Months After Marriage
"He's begged me for forgiveness, but my heart is broken."
By Wayne Garreth — 05 Dec 2022, 11:07 AM
We're often advised to ditch partners or dates who exhibit what's been referred to as, 'red flags'.
But what about those who've only discovered such character deficits after making a lifelong commitment?
A recent confession on the Twitter page, @ConfessTweetMY, has grabbed the attention of thousands, after a wife lamented her frustrations over a pretty damning issue with her new husband.
Revealing that they've been married for about four months now, she recently discovered that he cheated on her before their engagement and subsequent nuptials.
Pleading for help through the confession, she's uncertain about what her future will hold, and what she plans to do with her partner moving forward.
Beginning her story, the confessor stated that after dating for six years, she and her husband finally got married about four months ago
Diving right into the deep end, she explains how through the past six years of being together, he's never done anything questionable, or was involved with any other woman whenever they were in a rough patch.
"Even if we fought, I would never think that he'd cheat on me," she wrote.
Saying that she had complete and utter trust in him, the confessor stated that they've never went through each others' phones or logged into each others' social media accounts. "He seldom uses social media, so that gave me less of a reason to check it."
After they started living together, the confessor goes on to explain that she had an urge one night to check his phone — and what she found was horrific
"Five months before our wedding, he had an affair with an Indonesian woman from his office," she detailed. "I found their chats on Telegram, and read all of it. She even asked him what she should do if she were to become pregnant. There's a factory near his office where they had their rendezvous."
According to the confessor, she stated that her husband had moved the woman to another factory after one month, and blocked her online. "I also read Instagram messages she spammed him with, begging for him to reply her," she wrote.
Uncertain about the course of events from that point onwards, the confessor admits that she's unsure as to whether her husband blocked the Indonesian woman because they got married, or if he was scared that she conceived his child.
"We fought like cats and dogs over it. The worst part is, three days later, I found out I'm pregnant. I wasn't happy at all, and I want to run away, but we're so newly married that I don't want my family to know," she explained.
Ending her confession, the woman asked for advice as to what she should do next, and for words of encouragement to keep going.
"He admitted his mistake, cried and begged for me to forgive him and to give him a second chance. But my heart is broken, and I don't know how to explain that to him. I've become so vengeful towards him," she wrote.
Gaining traction on Twitter, the tweet has since received more than 7,000 likes and almost 4,000 retweets
A plethora of comments advised the confessor to leave her husband for good, saying that if he cheats once, he will cheat on her again.
"Once a cheater, forever a cheater. You can close one eye for matters like this to protect your marriage, but you're going to be so unhappy when it comes to trust issues, anxiety, and being unnecessarily possessive. Things will drive you completely crazy, it's better to be practical," said one user.
Another person stated that if the husband didn't love the confessor enough to stay loyal for six years, he won't in the future. "If I were you, as painful as it is, consult your family to get a divorce rather than live a life full of spite and a broken heart," they stated.
On the opposite end of things, one person told the confessor to forgive her husband and give him a second chance.
"God's tests come in different forms. This is a test for the both of you. Close the chapter on this part of your life. Experience heartbreak at the beginning, but don't let your ego consume you," they wrote.
Nonetheless, another fervently disagreed with the user, saying that it was bad advice to give, putting pressure on the wife to forgive him.
"She should leave him. The trust is gone. A relationship without trust is hell," they stated.
Others gave their opinions and takes on the matter. One person said they understood the vengeance the confessor is experiencing, adding that once you start feeling these emotions, the whole relationship will change.
Another person was rather confused by the whole situation, saying, "Six years of a relationship, it's rare that someone would so easily keep the cheating a secret for so long."
Handing out some counsel, one person said that checking your partner's phone is part and parcel of being in a relationship. "Before I got married, I'd check my boyfriend's phone. Even after marriage, I can check his, and he can check mine," she penned.
All in all, the most fruitful comments of the bunch came from those who uplifted the wife, and told her to think this through before making her decision.
"Cry your heart out, and give room for your emotions. Decide what to do after two to three days. No matter what, our feelings will take priority. We'll always think of the worst when we're emotional, nothing can get done properly," wrote one user.
While one person gave their take on the matter, saying second chances are not worth it, he also told the confessor to think properly on the matter and to make the best decision for herself. "I wish you all the best with everything there is to come."
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
If you or anyone you know may be at risk of domestic violence, please call these Malaysian hotlines:
1. WOMEN'S AID ORGANISATION (WAO)
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