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Man Jailed After Trying To Rape Colleague's Wife To Fulfil His Fantasy

The victim was drugged by her own husband of over 20 years as part of his deviant fantasy.

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Warning: This story contains detailed survivor accounts of sexual assault. Reader discretion is advised.

A man in Singapore who tried to make his friend's dream come true by raping his wife was given jail for three years on Thursday, 13 January

The 47-year-old is the first of seven men who were tried for wanting their wives sexually assaulted as part of a 'wife-sharing fantasy' after he pleaded guilty. Several other men are slated to plead guilty next month, including the husband in the current case who is also accused of raping a 32-year-old woman in 2013.

According to The Straits Times, the husband talked about his sex life with his colleague, which included his wife-sharing fantasies where a husband would watch another man having sex with his spouse.

The accused agreed to act out the fantasy when the opportunity came along two years later in 2017, without ever talking about whether the woman had consented to the idea.

She had not.

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The 48-year-old husband invited his accomplice to his bedroom, where his wife was lying naked, blindfolded and unconscious on the bed

According to Today Online, he reportedly gave her alcohol and a drug to knock her out earlier in the evening of 31 August 2017, before inviting his friend to the family home.

In the early hours of 1 September 2017, while their three children and maid were asleep in another room, his accomplice entered the bedroom to rape her, but failed. He was later diagnosed with erectile dysfunction.

The woman had regained consciousness by then and confronted the accused. She made both men write confession letters and did not go to the police.

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The crime went unnoticed until 2 January 2020 after another woman found explicit photos in her husband's phone and suspected that he and others had conspired to rape her

This woman's husband was arrested and police established the identities of his accomplices, including the husband in the current case. This in turn led to the arrest of the accused on 10 January 2020.

The defence sought a jail term of between two and two-and-a-half years, citing the woman's husband as the instigator of the offence, while the accused had gone "along for the ride". There was also no plan to commit the rape, as the two had only shared fantasies ahead of the offence, based on a report by Yahoo News Singapore.

The prosecution sought a term of between two and three-and-a-half years' jail, with Deputy Public Prosecutor Chee Ee Ling telling the court that the man had been convicted in 2018 for filming women in the bathroom and for possessing obscene material. He was jailed for 12 weeks and fined SGD20,000 (about RM62,000) for those offences.

In sentencing the man, Justice Aedit Abdullah accepted the defence's argument that the two men had not planned the offence meticulously for two years.

Rape carries a jail term of up to 20 years, with a fine or caning. However, in the man's case, as he only abetted a conspiracy to commit rape, in which rape was not committed, under the Penal Code, he could be jailed up to a quarter of the maximum jail term, which is five years. He could also have been fined.

If you or someone you know may be at risk or has experienced sexual abuse or assault, please reach out to these Malaysian organisations:

1. WOMEN'S AID ORGANISATION (WAO)
Operating hours: 24-hour
Contact: +603-30008858
SMS/WhatsApp: +6018-9888058
Website | Facebook | Twitter

2. ALL WOMEN'S ACTION SOCIETY (AWAM)
Operating hours: Monday to Friday (9.30am - 5.30pm)
Contact: +603-78770224
WhatsApp/Telegram: +6016-2284221 | +6016-2374221
Email: [email protected]
Website | Facebook | Twitter

3. WOMEN'S CENTRE FOR CHANGE PENANG (WCC PENANG)
Operating hours: Monday to Friday (9am - 5pm)
Contact: +604-2280342 | +604-3988340
WhatsApp: +6011-31084001 | +6016-4180342
Email: [email protected]
Website | Facebook | Twitter

4. SARAWAK WOMEN FOR WOMEN SOCIETY (SWWS)
Operating hours: Monday (7pm - 9pm),Tuesday to Thursday (9.30am - 11.30am), Saturday (2pm - 4pm)
Contact: +6082-368853
SMS/WhatsApp: +6016-5822660 | +6013-8044285
Email: [email protected]
Website | Facebook | Twitter

5. SABAH WOMEN'S ACTION-RESOURCE GROUP (SAWO)
Operating hours: Monday to Friday (9am - 5pm)
Contact: +6088-280200 | +6011-27908020
Email: [email protected]
Website | Facebook | Twitter

6. PROTECT AND SAVE THE CHILDREN (PS THE CHILDREN)
Operating hours: Monday to Friday (3pm - 12am)
WhatsApp: +6016-7213065
Email: [email protected]
Website | Facebook | Twitter

7. INTERNET WATCH FOUNDATION (IWF)
Anonymously and confidentially report child sexual abuse content and non-photographic child sexual abuse images with IWF's Reporting Portal.

Meanwhile in Malaysia, over 40% of sexual harassment cases in schools were committed by teachers and other figures of school authorities, according to a November 2021 report:

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